J. R. DePriest :verified_trans: :donor: :Moopsy: :EA DATA. SF:<p>I have ADHD and Autism. I suffer from executive dysfunction and severe social anxiety.<br>I'm taking a week off from work so I can finally talk to the insurance about fixing our basement that flooded in January 2024. It's been torn up and unusable since they ripped up the carpet, tore out the lower half of the drywall, and drained all the water over a year ago. <br>Our cats have been living in our sunroom. <br>We haven't watched TV because the wall where we mounted it is gone.<br>It's an urgent need but I have to take a week off in order to push through the multiple unscripted conversations it will take, to have the energy to let strangers into our house.<br>I am disabled. <br>I am. <br>So why do I keep thinking I'm broken? <br>Why do I tell myself to "try harder"?<br>Why do I feel like a failure as a wife, cat mom, and home keeper?<br>So much needs to be done and I just can't.<br>I can't. <br>And that's hard to admit. <br>It has to get done. Before my wife became disabled, we managed better. We were still not getting it all done, but we split duties. We supported each other. <br>Now she can't do what she used to. I understand that. I afford her a great deal of grace, kindness, and understanding.<br>She understands my limitations and doesn't nag or complain or fret.<br>I can't figure out how to give myself the same consideration.<br>"She deserves better."<br>"I should do better."<br>"I deserve better."<br>We all deserve better, especially right now. <br>We deserve better, but we have to settle for what we have. </p><p><a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/ExecutiveDysfunction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ExecutiveDysfunction</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/AnalysisParalysis" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AnalysisParalysis</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/SocialAnxiety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SocialAnxiety</span></a></p>